Pros to getting married:
- The thought of having someone who loves me for me is wonderful. I'm a bit odd (no comments, please) and it would take a pretty cool person to put up with and enjoy that.
- Companionship. Sometimes it sucks to eat by myself or go to events by myself. I worry that after my parents are gone, I won't have anyone to listen to me or to hang out with for holidays. Sounds lonely.
- Getting to use those 2 for 1 coupons in the Happenings book.
- Sex. Uh, yeah, it has been way too long since I even kissed a guy.
- Physical affection other than the above. I like to cuddle and wrestle.
- Financially a second salary would be nice. I comfortably pay for my needs and occasional wants but a second salary would allow for extra wants.
- Babies! Of course, this would mean less "wants" for me. :) Grandkids for the parents.
Cons to getting married:
- Having a roommate. I don't do well with roommates. I don't like picking up after others or not being able to have "space." Maybe I should have listened to that lesson about sharing in preschool.
- Alone time. I was once described as an introvert who trained herself to be an extrovert. After being around people all day, I need to go home and be alone.
- Ava will not like sharing the bed or her mama's affections.
- I suppose I would have to actually shower and brush my teeth everyday. (Sometimes this doesn't happen if I don't leave the house.) Don't worry, if you come over I'll freshen up.
- Boy dirtiness in the bathroom. Boys can be gross. Ick. Hmm, maybe I'll just make him use the guest bathroom. Problem solved.
Looking over the lists, the pro list is much more persuasive. With the exception of the alone time con, all the other cons are just minor annoyances. So why am I not getting married? (Since I drink beer, watch football and look good in a bikini?)
Because I am picky. I'm quite happy being single and I don't want to settle for just anyone (did you know there is a book out right now encouraging women to settle?). I see way too many people with someone just so they can be married. So if you have someone nice, smart and attractive to hook me up with, please do.
If you want to hook me up with someone just because he is single and I am single, please don't. (Had a groomsman hit on me once by telling me he had been asking about me and found out I was the only single girl so he figured he'd hit on me. Thanks, what part of that was supposed to impress me?) He doesn't have to have Matt Damon good looks or Albert Einstein smarts, but he should have some redeeming qualities beyond singleness. Thank you.
3 comments:
i hated getting set up for the hell of it. just being single doesn't make for a good partnership!
suzanne, i thought/felt all of those things. when garrett came into my life, i was barely looking. i was caught way off guard & definitely by surprise. just don't settle. wait until you find someone who makes you a better person & then you can start considering.
not all boys are nasty. yesterday i was feeling queasy. the first thing garrett did was go clean the toilet. it's not like he's got perfect aim, but he tries ;) and when it comes down to something important, he takes care of it. he's the reason our house has been clean recently while we're trying to sell.
i know how you feel. there's someone out there for you, i just can't tell you when you'll find him. but it'll be the right time. i hated trying to have the patience to wait for that.
Suzanne, you are always welcome at our holiday events. They may be crazy, but you are welcome at our craziness!
I see your point on the roommate thing. Plus it's not like you can find a new one and just move out. Well at least not as easily!
Jer and I are still all about alone time. It doesn't mean we love each other less, just that we are getting on each other's nerves!
And we had separate bathrooms for the first three years we were married. :)
Don't stress, don't settle. But maybe start wearing ONLY your bikini wherever you go.
Wait, you might not want THAT guy!
Ha ha. Verification word was vialshiz!
Okay, I'm going to comment on every blog entry starting right here working my way up. :) Um, you're right, the pros are better than the cons. Don't settle, but make sure that your expectations are real. Honestly, I don't believe there's ONE right person for anyone. Great marriages aren't made of "ideal" people, they are made by imperfect people who are willing to grow and change to become a better lover of others. :)
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